Parenting is not easy. As a father, especially, you are usually the go-to parent when it comes to discipline or tough love. However showing too much discipline, and not enough affection is a good way of straining your relationship with your child. You must find instead a middle ground that will allow you to between being affectionate, and knowing when to discipline your child. Below are ten tips to help your father the right way, and ensure a happy relationship between you and your son/daughter according to the Dad Project.
This is one of the most powerful and effective ways to build a relationship between you and your child. Finding time and spending it one on one with your kids is an impactful way of connecting of connecting with them. If you have more than one child, make an effort to bring each one on individual dates. Dad dates are the perfect opportunities to just have fun with your child, so try and stay away from the serious of disciplining conversations.
A lot like your dates, a trip finds another opportunity for you to spend one-on-one time with your kids. They include exclusive trips between you and your child, and even business trips that may require some travelling. What matters most is the effort made to spend one on one time with your child. Take the opportunity to sight-see and spend some valuable time together.
Work should not Interfere
“Working too much” should never be an excuse for not spending time with you child. Try to work around the school day, and make an effort to take them to school in the mornings. Some men choose to end work early on, one specific day of the week, and make that the day you spend quality time with your kids. Of course, when you’re home, make dinnertime family time and have your family eat together. According to Professor Bruce Robinson, the director of the fathering project, families that eat together at least four times a week reduce the chance of substance abuse within their children by half.
Make your Kids Feel Special
Make it known to your kids that they are special. If you have their appreciation and love, they will not need to go to others for appreciation or acceptance. This prevents them from getting involved in an assortment of negativity with destructive crowds and peers. Seek out their opinions and value them when they are given to you. Also, identify some characteristics or talents that make them stand out, and hold them in high regard whenever you can.
It’s hard to resist the urge of zoning out your kids sometimes. However it’s important to quietly observe your kids and the issues they may be dealing with. Whether its problems in their school work, social lives, or sports and extracurricular, you should pay close attention to what’s going on in their world. Don’t jump to criticism, and relate to them with some of your own experiences.
Be involved both in their Formal and Social Education
Don’t smother your kids by doing this however. With their schoolwork, you should sit down with them and help them to the best of your ability. Doing homework with them is also a great way of spending time with you child, however difficult it may be to bring them to the table. Most importantly though, be involved in their social and moral education. Teach them values like integrity, honesty, respect, dependability, etc. Fathers are especially impactful in this area, and it is important that you do not overlook it. Kids in today’s age face an array pressure from television, music, the internet, and their own peers. Always guide them.
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